How To Get Rid of A Communication Crunch

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Communication is a foundation of any valuable relationship. Do you agree? It isn’t the main one. Commitment is required before anyone says a what. We’re gonna give you 2 changes you can pledge to do right now!

Men and women often labor to powwow effectively with each other, which can lead to frustration, resentment, and even the breakdown of the relationship itself. The biggest issue we see is miscommunication! Even silence is communication. The quiet speaks volumes to a heart and the entire room!

One of the main reasons for this is the difference in communication styles between men and women. Men tend to be more direct and solution-oriented. Are you a man who’ll agree because you “Don’t want to get nothing started?” Not having a complete conversation and invalidating someone is a guarantee for something to pop off! Women tend to communicate more indirectly and seek emotional validation. This can lead to misunderstandings, as men may feel women are being overly emotional. Women may feel that men are being mean. Sadly, we live in a world where the display of observable emotions and sentiments is frowned upon. Displaying feelings makes you human and relatable.

Another factor that can contribute to communication snafus between men and women is societal conditioning. Men are frequently exposed to the belief it is manly to be stoic and unemotional.

In a prior blog, we even shared how men are wired to have a mental detox after being vulnerable. Women are encouraged to express their emotions freely. For them, it gives comfort and connection.

This can lead to a situation where men feel uncomfortable discussing feelings. Women believe their emotions are not being heard or validated.

So, how can men and women overcome these communication barriers and connect with each other on a deeper level? Here are two tips that can help:

  1. Practice active listening: When your partner is speaking, make a conscious effort to listen attentively and empathetically. This means putting aside your own thoughts and feelings and really trying to understand where your partner is coming from. Don’t interrupt or dismiss their feelings, even if you don’t necessarily agree with them.

  2. Simply acknowledge their emotions and let them know that you’re there to meet the need being presented. Ya’ll see that in bold? You have to do more than look attentive or putting the phone down. Take the next step and recognize where the person is. Waaay too many times, this is the moment where someone is blamed for having an emotion or their emotional expression is met with, “I don’t know why you feel that way….Get over yourself…That’s your problem…”

  3. Don’t assume Bae knows what you’re thinking or feeling because you’ve heard this problem or concern before. Having heard a topic before is a key indication it ain’t resolved because you’re hearing it again. Read that again! A repeat issue is a repetitive matter needing more attention. Express yourself clearly and honestly. Ask questions. Find out what Bae needs from you to put the matter to rest. Similarly, women should also strive to be more direct in their communication, particularly when it comes to expressing their needs and boundaries.

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What is the gap between what we suggest and where you are now? Close it in!

See ya soon,

THE HIM and Naaila

How To Know If You Have An Emotional Connection

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Have you ever heard or said, “I just don’t feel it….”

Some folks consider this a snide remark, but this is a common relationship issue. The “IT” factor of your relationship loses the spark or you never developed one for the person.

What does it mean to have an emotional connection?To be in emotional alignment means a sensation of affinity for another person transcends words or a physical attraction. It is more than date nights or Baecations. The magnetism feels uniquely secure and has depth.This craving for a secure and reliable tie with another begins in infancy. Children have this exact need. As humans, we want a sense of belonging.

Not ensuring and securing this in your relationship, repeatedly, takes ya’ll places you don’t wanna go!

Here are some cues that say an emotional connection exists:

  1. You do more than listen to the words the other person says. You hear and seek to understand. When you hear a critique or concern, you don’t dismiss it, become defensive or say, “That’s not true.” You give your full attention, be present, seek to understand and to ask questions about what Bae feels.

    Now, folks that is how you listen to someone. Lots of folks are weak in this area. Err’body listens until they don’t wanna hear no mo’!

  2. Ya’ll find a way to see the lessons learned in conflict. Err’one disagrees at times. Each of you will need to stay present, not throw too much info at one time, and then, see what can be overcome through this conflict. What errors were made? What can each of you do differently next time? Make the moment a goldmine and not an emotional landmine.

  1. You’re invested or cooperating with the other person’s interests even if it’s not your thing. It feels good to have common hobbies, but it won’t be a perfect match. While you may not want to go with Bae to pick out fabric for a sewing project, you’re willing to take her to a play on the opening night. When you care for someone, you contribute to things important to them in many ways. It is because you like the person even if you’re not enthused about the activity.

Another thing we want you to notice is this goes beyond romantic relationships. These are things to do in any healthy relationship! It anchors the two of you into each other on another level.

You are hardwired to be tapped into each other. Invest in our growth-oriented virtual class for those wanting to plug into the cues to plant an actual bond. It is holistically designed to nourish the highest parts of each of you. Touch on the link for the info cause time is running out! Don’t let this uplifting deal pass by!

See ya soon,

THE HIM and Naaila