How To Inspire A Man to Give Reassurances

Anyone of you struggling with the silent treatment? How about the days of tension in the house after an argument? Or, your man gets salty and fails to send his sweet texts for about 3 days.

Maybe, he’s been quieter than usual. Did you do something? Was there an issue at work?

You wanna know that despite what life is delivering, ya’ll are good. The more you ask or seek to connect, he moves away. When he pulls away, you want a cue or the Liberty bell to ring signaling ya’ll remain solid.

Women want reassurance. For a woman, a relationship has regular membership requirements. Men think if they signed up to be with you, work hard to take care of you, do things you like and have loving actions…CHILL! We good!

Not you! You need him to re-certify his membership with you emotionally. When you express uncertainty about his membership status, i.e. commitment to you, he believes he’s done something wrong. Now, what do you believe happens when you repeatedly seek reassurance?

It isn’t a good look for the relationship. No man wants to feel he isn’t your Bae frequently.

When a man often shows care, understanding, and is committed, your need for reassurance is fulfilled. However, when he withdraws, even temporarily, your need for consolation shows up.

All relationships need moments of confirmation and reinforcement. A woman isn’t designed to toss this innate need. Take this one tip to get what you need.

Specifically, ask for what you want to hear.

“Bae, I know you have a lot of work to do. Can you let me know when you’re mentally bogged down by saying, ‘Hon, this evening, I’ll be at my desk all evening. Give be this time and know we’re good.’”

“Or, when we argue and you take a drive, I feel isolated. Before you go, will you tell me, ‘Dear, I’m gonna go get my head right. I love you and we’ll work this out when I get back’…”

This next part gets tricky. He may say it. Please do NOT respond by telling him it isn’t sincere or he only said it because you told him too. Accept his effort to please you. Men use words, but not the same way women do. The man is trying.

Let his effort reassure you he cares and is renewing his membership to the commitment with you. Isn’t this method better than being mad all day or not being able to focus all day due to overthinking and making assumptions?

If your answer is, “Yasss!,” practice and let us know what happens.

See ya soon,

THE HIM and Naaila