You’ve likely heard the phrase, “You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge.” Many stop with quoting or hearing the phrase because they wanna know what they gotta do to acknowledge it. Client have said, more than once, “I don’t want to know because I don’t want to be responsible for the change in myself.” When a person is able to reposition this fear, much can happen.
We remember, a few years back, when our youngest son won a History contest at his school. He was so upset about winning. He feared the additional word he’d have to do for the state competition. He did not know he’d only have to present the same project another time to a different group of judges. He failed to recognize his feelings around additional accountability.
He didn’t want to be responsible for more work or to represent his school. He lacked the words to communicate his anxieties. Because of this, he overwhelmed himself more.
It would have served him to ask questions to learn more about what he’d be responsible for. Had he done so, he’d know there was no additional work to be completed. His presence was required at the next level. Nothing more.
If you you had a childhood where your needs were unmet, ignored or you were not encouraged to ask questions, you won’t have the capacity to identify what benefits you.
If you don’t know how to get the data applying it is farfetched. Can you really enjoy your own life when you live in an unknown place not allowing you to authentically learn you? Consider the possibilities if you did something differently.
We’re not telling you the process of acknowledgement is easy, but you don’t hafta go it alone.