Finding Boundaries & Inner Peace With A Narcissistic Mother

Hello You!

Loving a narcissistic mother can be a heart-wrenching struggle. She always has to be the center of attention, even if it means putting you down or embarrassing you. It’s frustrating. It’s hurtful. Yet, you keep being told, “She’s your mother…”

It doesn’t feel fair! No one should get a pass on good behavior including mothers!

Don’t worry, my friend, there are ways to deal with this tricky situation.

Tip 1: Don’t engage in the drama. Your narcissistic mother wants a reaction from you. Don’t give her one. If she tries to start an argument or says something hurtful, take a deep breath, remain calm and not engage! Remember her words and actions are not a reflection of your worth. This can look like maintaining eye contact for several seconds after a comment is made, in silence.

Tip 2: Your mother’s behavior may be embarrassing, but it’s important to protect your emotional well-being. Decide what behaviors you will and will not tolerate, and stick to them. Communicate these boundaries to your mother in a calm and assertive manner. Need help? Naaila can surely assist you with this one!

For example, you might say, “Mom, I love you, but I can’t tolerate being spoken to disrespectfully. If you continue to speak to me that way, I’ll need to end the conversation/leave the room/hang up the phone.”

She may never respect your boundaries, but you must! Set the pattern of knowing she loses access to you in the moment if she continues.

Tip 3: Find humor in the situation. It may sound counterintuitive, but finding humor in your mother’s narcissistic behavior can help diffuse the tension. Laughing at her ridiculousness can take back some of your power and remind yourself that you’re not the crazy one. There is some truth to “laughing to keep from crying.”

Remember, you’re not alone in this struggle. There are many others who have experienced similar challenges and have found ways to cope and thrive. Email info@ThatClayCouple.com to set up a few sessions to heal your mother wound.

You deserve to be happy and loved, and you have the power to create that for yourself.

See you soon,

THE HIM and Naaila