The Cost of Riding the Middle Lane

Did a parent or anyone ever remind you to follow the rules? Rules are everywhere and often, are definitively detailed.

Don’t sit here.
Don’t trespass.
No shirt or shoes-no service.

These are all kinda self-explanatory. There are also the middle ground areas.

Such as…

Wear your mask at all times UNLESS fully vaccinated or with an exemption.

You must make your bed as soon as you get up each morning.

You have to pray on your knees.

Then, we have the things considered culturally and spiritually incorrect. For example, one should not disrespect a parent. However, disrespect is defined differently by each person/family.

We can likely agree, disrespecting Momma ain’t gonna be ok. But many things in life fall into these undefined areas like making the bed and prayer. When things are not clear, it can be difficult to make a decision. It is natural to lean away from the choice causing the most sting, but when the sting is unknown and unclear, you won’t avoid what you have no knowledge of.

Growing up, you could wear Winter white from Labor Day to Easter Sunday. On, and after, Easter Sunday, a classy lady knew she could wear white, in all its pure glory, until Labor Day. Welp, I have seen many who don’t subscribe to this fashion faux pas anymore! And it’s ok. There are many fashion alternations one can choose. There is no right or wrong white to wear.
It’s a middle ground.

We’re sure someone has made this old fashion rules their personal mantra. It’s actually a preference, but folks seem to cross the lines of preferences and requirements.

If I prefer it, it must be right!

WRONG! There is no reason for you to put unnecessary mandates on yourself, and others, to be right when what is right is up to you.

How often have you allowed someone to remove this choice from you? Have you let someone impose their stance for what is right or wrong on you? Let’s take some steps to keep this from happening again.

1. Remind yourself your individuality matters. If it isn’t sinful, illegal or with poor intent, you can make it an option for you. Do what works for you.

2. Give yourself permission to try something new.

3. Be gracious with yourself if you’re temporarily wrong. If you’re self-aware, you’ll be wrong for a limited time only. See your error and make a correction from where you are.  You can elect to have the life you want based on who you are and your values without putting emphasis on having the absolute right answer. You’re not always going to know. And, it isn’t always necessary.

The only thing you must do is make a balanced healthy choice for yourself.

See ya soon,

Hasan and Naaila

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