Is This For You Today?

It’s crazy how folks look at what other people have and want the same thing without even considering it may not be for them. Have you ever seen someone be someone about the blessings of another person? Or, when they hear about another person’s “Aw Yeah” moment, they don’t hooray or toss confetti in the air.

Instead, the person makes it about them and inserts their experience with something similar. Suddenly, it becomes about how this success story ain’t all that bright. How this person needs to be careful cause someone is always being shady. How they learned their lesson…blah…blah..blah.

Real quickly, the conversation has made a turn onto Hater Highway.

You direct the person to their narrow minded beliefs. You try to change the conversation. You no longer feel comfortable.
You did all you could, but this person is stuck. You gotta leave’em there and accept folks for who they are.

Same thing goes for your marriage. To kill a relationship faster than bug spray on a fly, don’t expect your spouse to change for you. They’ll fall out on you like you sprayed Raid all over them!

Take a step back and look within. No matter how much you want your spouse to be something or someone else, all he or she will be is who they are. We’ll never tell you folks can’t shift, but they’ll do so because they wanna. It may be for you, but they WANT to do it for you.


I remember when THE HIM went to an arts festival with me. He hated err’ minute of it, but he wanted to be with me. He tried to act like he liked it to not spoil it for me. I knew the truth! I was so appreciative of the gesture, I never asked him to go again! He’s glad too! This is how you make the marriage gifts about each of you.

You have key internal gifts to use. We know you use them for many great things, but when your talents are consumed to the white meat with making another person change, you’re wasting them. You’re looking for them to do the impossible!

The evolution you seek isn’t to be found in someone else. It is within you!

Talk to you soon,

Hasan “THE HIM” and Naaila

Work Less and Get More…

Ya’ll in it to win it… So how do you make sure you win every time?

Hello Winners in the Love Thang Village! 

This village is full of winners! This is the momentum on this Love Plateau!

We’re about to pour the tea on how you can love more and stomp out anything keeping you from it.

What was the Relationship Killer lurking around you this week? Last week?

Did you apologize, buy a gift, isolate yourself, try to bite your tongue or have more sex to try to put the brakes on an issue beating down your relationship?

Now, ya’ll still together so you did something! Whatever it was. No relationship can survive without effort. At least not a loving and sustainable relationship.

Ya’ll may have made some headway or you let it go. God willing, ya’ll found some toe-curling action each of you like.

We’ve got an idea for you that has gotten hundreds of couples back on track.

We’ve got an idea for you that had folks running to get married.

We’ve got an idea we’ve seen work, again and again, and quickly.

You see where we’re going with this? Flood the right actions into your relationship and you can secure the love bag while doing less!

NEVER CEASE AND DESIST on the small gestures and words that got the attention of each other. Don’t stop doing what you were doing at the beginning!

Remember the $5 gift you bought her and she lit up for no reason? Imagine what another one would do!

Don’t forget the time you made something special for him, just because, and he loved it!

What was the sweet name you used to call each other? Do it again!

See how easy it is! You already have an arsenal of goodness to use. Use this must-have skill to pull in more of what you want to see and to feel from one another.

Can’t think of anything? ASK!

“Baby, what was something I used to do that made you feel good about me?”

The reality is this. You can keep doing what you’re doing-trying to guess what it is or believe you know what to do while getting it wrong- OR you can use this quick fix right now.

The choice is all yours.

Talk to you soon,

Hasan “THE HIM” and Naaila

2020 Gratitude Letter