What You Want Expires If You Don’t Move Now!

Love Thang Village: FACTS: As a couple, we don’t have to constantly read a book or watch a video to recover from problems or to generate the marriage we want. In the pic below, we were at one of our many yearly retreats. What the picture doesn’t show says much more.  A few moments after […]

Can I Get Some Love?

Hello Love Thang Village, “Hasan and Naa’ila, how can I get more affection in my marriage?” We get this question sooo often.  And from that, we have a few questions. Does your husband or wife believe they’re affectionate and you’re missing it?  Another question asked is, “Hasan and Naa’ila, can you help me find someone […]

SuperDuper Tips to Build Your Family

Hello Love Thang Village,  Opps! The summer is almost gone. You have time to get in those last minute trips, cook outs, plans and wear out your summer sandals! We’re gonna tell you what Naa’ila did to make a mad dash for the “bucket list’ this summer…. Ya’ll gather round…We feel like some of you […]

What You Want Expires If You Don’t Move Now!

Love Thang Village:
FACTS: As a couple, we don’t have to constantly read a book or watch a video to recover from problems or to generate the marriage we want.
In the pic below, we were at one of our many yearly retreats. What the picture doesn’t show says much more.  A few moments after this was snapped, a man present at the event, said, “THE HIM is treated like the KING! You mesh…”

What you can’t see is I was caressing Hasan’s neck. He was in pain and despite teaching a class, I could see it. I went to him to give him comfort and to bring him a drink. I said nothing! I noticed his condition and responded. This is meshing.

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Previously, the night before we had a disagreement over swim trunks. Yasss! Swim trunks! You can’t tell in this picture and when we spoke to each other, publicly or privately, you wouldn’t be able to tell. Resentment doesn’t live here.
This is #TEAMMESH!
We worked. We laughed. We ate good.
All while being a normal husband and wife with real life issues. The difference? We do the guaranteed work we speak of to you!

We’re a regular couple known as the “Ossie and Ruby Dee of Counseling” who knows how to work the marriage work.

And you can do the same.

Can I Get Some Love?

Hello Love Thang Village,

“Hasan and Naa’ila, how can I get more affection in my marriage?”

We get this question sooo often. 

And from that, we have a few questions. Does your husband or wife believe they’re affectionate and you’re missing it? 🤔

Another question asked is, “Hasan and Naa’ila, can you help me find someone to marry?”

Ahh…we struggled with this one ourselves! With God’s grace, paying attention to life lessons and giving pause, we learned real life tactics to make better decisions.

Listen to what others have said who’ve gotten answers from us…

 

…I remarried in February to an amazing loving brother. This is the final stop for both of us….” 

 

“… I’m thankful for the space Im in now. I didn’t realize it would come this soon, but my grieving period is over…I wanted to give you and Brother Hasan the credit you deserve…the storm has passed and I’m healing…” 

Aren’t these two great things to say and to feel?

You can send a message to yourself and to your relationship to make it feel like, “Heyy…this is what you said you wanted. I got it!”

Show yourself you can resolve your own issues without too much effort or work. Invest in products and services that don’t FEEL like work. Sure, some lifting will be involved with any relationship, but nothing over 25 lbs!

If it feels heavy or overwhelming, who doesn’t feel naturally want to turn away.

Imagine a Home Depot commercial. Even if you aren’t a homeowner, the they make you feel like you can get a project done in a matter of hours. All you have to do is visit the store and buy their stuff! The commercial never mentions the snafu leading you to a YouTube search for help!

If you never heard the good news upfront, you wouldn’t even consider it. Home Depot doesn’t lie. They simply make it look easy. We have one up on them! Our testimonials show you a possible best-case scenario for you.

Love this? Feelin’ like you may be able to hammer a nail into a relationship repair?

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SuperDuper Tips to Build Your Family

Hello Love Thang Village, 

Opps! The summer is almost gone. You have time to get in those last minute trips, cook outs, plans and wear out your summer sandals! We’re gonna tell you what Naa’ila did to make a mad dash for the “bucket list’ this summer….

Ya’ll gather round…We feel like some of you can relate to this one! 

When it comes to biology, the first place you look for relatives is within your immediate family circleright? We doA big problem comes with this. It can be quite restrictive and the reason for it is downright alarming.
Almost sneaky.

Your family members typically select the kinfolks you’ll interact with and/or create a relationship, especially during your childhood.

If Momma doesn’t talk to her sister, you probably didn’t either.

When Grandma and her brother fell out, you saw Uncle Jimmy less and less.

It ain’t right, but these family decisions impact many and do so for years. As adults, your family circle becomes limited because you haven’t seen Uncle Jimmy or your mother’s sister in over 25 years! Their children, grandchildren, celebrations, and experiences are unknown to you. Likewise, you’re a blood-related stranger to them also.

In your childhood, you can’t do much about the choices adults make. As a grown up, what can you do expand your family territory?

QUIT ALLOWING FAMILY TO

DEFINE FAMILY FOR YOU! 

You’ve heard, “You can’t pick your family!” Agreed! You’re born into your family of origin, but you can hand-pick your emotional family.

Tip #1: Family doesn’t have to be blood or biological. You select the good folks you want to be in your circle that are healthy, supportive, loving and “show up” for you.

Tip #2: Set limits on the input you allow relatives to give you about your family interactions. When your brother says you shouldn’t talk to your oldest brother because he isn’t, it may be ok to give your brother the side eye. A broken tie doesn’t break your connection. Now, we would be remiss if we did not acknowledge sensitivities and exceptions to this. For example, when domestic violence, abuse, inappropriate sexual activity or illegal conduct occurs, boundaries may be needed.
But for issues outside of this, it may be good for you to accept the dinner invitation at your older brother’s house. Repeatedly limiting the selection of available family members for you to love and to interact with continues the cycle of family dysfunction.

Tip #3: Take responsibility for the bonds you create versus deciding to be loyal to one side of the family due to a generational/family dispute that has nothing to do with you. You deserve to have deep loving connections. When you give consent for another person to dictate with whom those love networks will be with, you restrict your capacity to give and to receive love.

68576969_10157461102531303_8684090677539110912_nRecently, Naa’ila met one of her 2 sisters she’d never met. The three sisters had heard of one another, but by no means been presented with the option of interacting as family.
Until now.

As children, the adults around them decided dissolved marriages was reason enough not to make a connection. We’re gonna take it a step further. Sometimes, grown folks don’t know how to be the intermediary under such conditions. Imagine that!
No one teaches adults how to orientate a formerly ignored child into the existing family unit. Ain’t no classes on this one!
However, we’ve done it, if you need a guide, we got you... but a formal course doesn’t exist.

Rather than be in awe of the alliances and love waited to be created, go make a family connection! You can renew old ones too! Let us know what happens!
Thank you,
Hasan “THE HIM” & Naa’ila